Posted by Booty Parlor on Mon, Mar 21, 2011
Dana B. Myers on This Week In Careers
Posted by Dana B. Myers on Fri, Mar 11, 2011
As a new mama, I find myself gabbing with other moms about all sorts of "new mommy" topics -- sleeping, breastfeeding, teething, sleeping (again), and of course, sex. Or really, the lack of sex. It seems that the curse of new mommyhood is a non-existent libido; as if the sexual spark that gets you pregnant in the first place burrows away into some deep, dark hibernation.
One mama said to me, "I just can't even think about sex." Of course, therein lies the problem! Once you stop thinking about sex, it fades out of your life pretty quickly. Now, that's not breaking news, but it is true. When you stop remembering what sex -- and feeling sexy-- can do for you, you lose the motivation to make it an integral part of your life. Whether it's the life-altering presence of a new baby, the stresses of a high-profile job, a to-do list that's toppling over, or you're just stuck in a rut with your lover, it can be challenging to keep the desire alive. I totally get it. But I'm here to tell you that if you can get sex back on your brain, you'll have it back in your bedroom in no time. And I know you'll feel happier and more satisfied when you do. I know I do! So, here's a couple of quick ideas to get your mental mojo moving again...
- Look for visual and mental stimulation every day. There are seductive elements in so many places, you just need to keep your eyes open for them and embrace the opportunities they present. When I hit up the LA Farmer's Market, the spectacularly phallic carrots and other natural wonders make me giggle and think naughty thoughts. Staying on the subject of food, I ate a chocolate pot de creme yesterday, and the flavors & texture were so rich that I couldn't help but feel sensual. It might be the way a flower opens, or that you catch a scent that reminds you of your hottest one-night-stand. Whatever it is, make it a point to jot down the things you see, hear, smell and feel that please you and make you a little lusty. Use a mini notebook or an App on your phone and then, a couple times a week, check back and see what you wrote. It'll remind you of what revs your motor...
- Bring out the fantasy lingerie. When I say "fantasy," I really mean costumes. Naughty nurse. Jail bird. Fluffy bunny. Sexy Mobster. Dressing up in a sexy costume is an instant libido booster. For most, it means instant sex-on-the-brain because, if it's not Halloween, why else would you be wearing it except for a sexy bedroom session? It makes you feel a little silly and naughty all at once, and prompts you to think, "Ok, what am I going to do now that I'm in this thing?" Not only will you look foxy, but it'll be easy to lose yourself in a new role, taking you out of the boredom/stresses of your daily life. It's an experiment in newness and it will bring on the creativity and a sense of play.
- Stock a seductive book. Whether it's a oversized book of provocative photography or an anthology of sexy stories, make room for a little extra stimulation that'll move your mind onto something sexier than baby bottles or your grocery list. At the end of a long day, it might seem easier to thumb through US Weekly, but seeing what Lindsey wore to court won't deliver you the motivation you need to get your mojo moving. Reading a short story -- be it romantic or kinky -- will ignite your imagination and spark up your desire. Then, it's up to you to act on the inspiration!
Whether you're a new mommy, a high-powered business woman, or you've just grown complacent in your relationship, I want you to remember how important "sexy" is in your life. Use these little tips to bring sexy back to your brain, and work to keep it alive. Because when you're living as the sexiest, most fabulous and vibrant version of you -- with confidence, self-love, and an active pursuit of the sexy satisfaction you deserve -- all of your life's other endeavors will benefit!
Posted by Dana B. Myers on Fri, Feb 25, 2011
Something I get asked a lot is: how can I attract attention from a guy when I'm out? No question, it can be hard to start a conversation with a cute guy at a bar. "Hi, I'm Dana, and I'd like to get to know you," is direct, and that alone can be super sexy, but it just isn't going to roll out of a lot of women's mouths. Instead, I always recommend using body language. There are lots of options, from a simple smile, to more showy va-va-voom maneuvers—and so anyone can feel confident! Practice these moves in a mirror to see what feels natural, and then go for it!!
Smile! You’re happy to be there, happy to be flirting, happy to be living up to your sexiest self. Happiness is magnetic, and that makes you approachable!
Twirl your hair Playing with your hair can be used to attract your target’s attention. It’s ultra-feminine, and a classic symbol of flirtation. While you twirl your locks, remember to expose your kissable neck, and trace your fingers subtly across your skin. Then send a flirtatious, coy glance his way.
Hold the gaze When you’ve identified someone you want to flirt with, give him a soft, seductive glance, and when he catches you looking, hold it for a few seconds, then look away. Then do it again. He'll know you’re flirting and you’ll know if he's interested if he holds your gaze. If he doesn't, move on.
Show your curves Arching your back naturally pushes your bust forward, and your bum back. Try it just ever…so…slightly when someone is looking at you. It will light up their mind and make you feel super seductive and feminine.
Put your lips into play A little nibble on the corner of your mouth, or even a tiny lick at the corner of your upper lip is a superb visual reference for your flirting object to see. It will get his wheels turning, imagining what other seductive maneuvers your lips can do. Don’t be too blatant or porn-y about this. Just be subtle, subtle, subtle, like you really are licking something off (imagine there's a dot of cappuccino froth on your lip).
Touch flirt-ily If you’re already engaged in conversation, casual touches on the arm will let the person you’re flirting with know that you’re definitely flirting with him.
Ready to get your flirt on? I know you are. Remember, the key here is subtley—and to have fun! Bring a few BFFs along. Having their support will spark your courage, and generate a lot of tension-busting giggles. Which is perfect because when you're having fun, you're relaxed, and acting yourself...and that's incredibly attractive!
Posted by Booty Parlor on Wed, Feb 23, 2011
In honor of the Oscars, The Booty Parlor staff has worked up a list of Sexiest Movies—red hot picks that fill your mind with naughty thoughts long after the credits roll. Some made the list because their sizzle captivated us from start to end, and others, for a single lusty scene that we still replay in our heads (a fab way to boost the old Mojo...doubly so if you insert yourself into the sexy scene!). No question, this list could be 50 flicks long...so let's get it there. Read and add your own nominees! Bonus: We're giving away a free Booty Parlor Va-Va-Voom Pink Boa to the first three people to leave their picks! Add them in the comments spot below!
1. 9-1/2 Weeks This classic remains a sexy must-see because it's still crazy-hot. And, a piece of trivia: 9-1/2 Weeks started the food-as-foreplay revolution—so it's the mother of Melt Chocolate Body Fondue!
2. Atonement. After a dozen viewings...the library scene, with Keira Knightley in that green fall-away dress, and James McAvoy just being...James McAvoy still takes our breath away. We play this one in our heads on a regular rotation.
3. A Walk on the Moon Viggo Mortensen's hot hippie traveling shirt salesman meets just-getting-by Diane Lane and lights up her Mojo. And the super hot waterfall scene, whew!
4. Chocolat Two words…Johnny Depp. Let's face it: the man is a turn-on in a pirate wig with fake teeth but here he's in rare form: looking like the sexy man he is, with a hot accent. Bon appetit!
5. The Notebook Desperate longing. Rapture in a dilapidated mansion. And the best kissing scenes ever between Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling.
6. Out of Sight George Clooney, a hunky bank robber, and Jennifer Lopez, a saucy federal marshal, enjoy playful banter and ignite major chemistry along the way, which adds to their overal steaminess.
7. Cruel Intentions Reese Witherspoon, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Ryan Phillippe, and Selma Blair, are young, nubile, backstabbing and randy as all heck.
8. Unfaithful Diane Lane is a bored suburbanite who hooks a tasty lothario (who isn't her buttoned-up husband). So wrong, but so hot.
9. The Age of Innocence Set in what you think is prim-and-proper 19th century New York City. But underneath the politeness is a whole lotta heat. When Daniel Day-Lewis unbuttons Michelle Pfeiffer's glove and kisses her bare wrist, trust us: it's today's equivalent of ripping her clothes off. Passion level: 10 out of 10.
10. Secretary. Frisky, adventurous types will like the strange, erotic office politics in this risque art house film, starring Maggie Gyllenhaal.
The list could go on, and on...that's where you come in. Share/debate/discuss your picks in the comments!
Posted by Booty Parlor on Tue, Feb 15, 2011
Welcome to the first installment of Sexy Capades! Learn and share tips for seduction and sexiness with other Booty Parlor Babes.
Today's topic: Share your best no-fail flirty pick up moves—your special secret for grabbing the spotlight! Booty Parlor Staffers will get the fun started. Take it away ladies!
• "I have nice, large eyes...I know I do, and I play them up even more with a few false lashes, on top, at the outer corners. It gives me an Angelina Jolie vixen-y vibe that draws guys in." —Andrea
• "I love hats, and I wear them out. It makes you stand out in the best possible way, and they're a conversation starter. People find it intriguing somehow." —Sophie
• "I'm hitched now, but when I was single this was my signature move: A dusting of body shimmer between my décolletage. It really enhances the assets, and I am telling you, it got me plenty of attention (and free drinks!)." —Mary Rose
Good stuff, right? Okay ladies we've shown you ours, now show us whatca got! Tell us your best tips...add them into the comments below!
Posted by Dana B. Myers on Fri, Feb 11, 2011
No question, it can sometimes feel...strange taking your clothes off in front of someone else. And if your workaround is to strip down as fast as humanly possible, or if you use stealth—maybe you wiggle out of your clothes in the dark, you're missing an amazing Mojo boosting opportunity for you and your partner. From here on out, I want you to own the moment...and seduce with it! Ready?
There's an art to taking it all off and it boils down to three words: be a tease. Draw the moment out to build anticipation.
Your bra: Push the shoulder straps down slowly, one at a time. Then while gently holding the bra in place with one hand, slide the other back along one side and unhinge the clasp. Keep holding the front for a few seconds (an about-to-fall-off bra is hot). Then make a show of dropping it to the floor.
Panties: Slowly tug one side down a few inches, then the other side, wiggle your bum...and pull them back up. Then lie back and suggest that your partner peel them off. Lift your hips and forelegs a few inches to help them glide down, and when they reach your toes, say you'll take it from there, and then flick them across the room!
Lace-up bodices: If you're wearing a lingerie top with lots of hooks or laces in the back, turn your bod so your partner sees the view and slowly, methodically undo each tiny hinge.
Chemises, baby dolls, and flowy teddies: Remove them while standing up. Make eye contact and gently glide your fingers across your collarbone and push down one strap, and then the other, and then hold the gown in place with one hand, and release so it drops down and puddles around your feet.
Stockings: Kick off your heels, then prop one foot on a chair or the bed frame. Slowly release the garter clips from one leg, then roll one stocking down, slowly, and when you reach your calf, sit back on the bed, point your toe out, and ask for help removing the rest. Repeat on the other leg.
Of course your partner will be spellbound by all of this, but how does this fuel your Mojo? Putting on a provocative show makes you feel sexy and desirable (you can totally get the boost solo—strip down in front of a mirror!). The more often you experience that gorgeous feeling, and confidence that goes with it, the better!
Think of me the next time you strip. Oh come on, you know what I mean!
Posted by Booty Parlor on Tue, Feb 08, 2011
Hey Booty Parlor Babes! Dana B. Myers and The Mojo Makeover book are all over the television and newsstands this month! We're loving the sassy call out in the February issue of Shape magazine—pick up a copy and check us out on their Hot/Hotter page. (We feel like it's the perfect spot, don't you?) And take a look at the fabulous four-pager in Life & Style, below. It has a little something-something for every BP Babe, from seductive makeup, flirting and workout tips, to the essential naughty undies upgrade. (Click on the images for a larger view.)
So ladies, which are your fave Life & Style tips—and how will you add your own sexy spin? Tell us in the comments!
Posted by Dana B. Myers on Fri, Feb 04, 2011
Valentine's Day—the sexiest day of the year!—is fast approaching, and you'll want to kiss with confidence. Explore these sexy smooches below, practice them, and then on February 14th—go for it with your Mojo blazing! Your kiss-ee will never forget the moment. Whether you practice in the mirror, or in your imagination (a mini-movie starring you and Brad Pitt perhaps?), get into the moment—have some fun!
1. Single lip kiss. Lean in and gently take the kiss-ee's top or bottom lip between yours, and suck slightly as you pull away. It's incredibly sensual.
2. Breezy kiss. Kiss, then keep lips' in contact for an extra (flirty) second, and blow gently on your sweetie's lips before pulling away.
3. French kiss. Either mad and passionate, or slow and sexy, this classic can be teased into countless steamy variations.
4. Ice cube kiss. Take an ice cube from your cocktail into your mouth and grab his attention with an ice cold French kiss…hot!
5. The French tickler. Before pulling away from a French Kiss, lightly run the tip of your tongue across your partner's lips.
6. Upside-down kiss. Lean down and plant one while your honey is lying in bed. Or, make it a surprise! Logistically, this will require sneaking up behind someone who's seated in a chair or on a couch—as long as you're sure it will be welcome, it'll be amazing.
Of course, a little plumping lip gloss is a must for these smooches. It will make your lips look and feel like they can work magic! Add a minty breath booster and you will feel unstoppable.
Enjoy prepping for your smackdown—let me know which kisses you liked best!
Posted by Booty Parlor on Mon, Jan 31, 2011
Attention Booty Parlor Babes: Are you in the mood to shop? Our fabulous founder and Sexy Lifestyle Expert Dana B. Myers has whipped up a seductive list of goodies to give or get on this Valentine's Day. Check out her picks and then go get 'em at bootyparlor.com!
For You: Bring on the Burlesque!
• Va Va Voom Pink Feather Boa, $16 Whether you’re playing the role of a burlesque dancer, a naughty Marilyn Monroe, or any sexy siren, a Boa adds the perfect touch of tease.
• Foxy Bombshell Hipster Bikini, $26 This pink, playful panty is slinky and offers a flattering sihouette...so you can sashay with confidence. Features a peak-a-boo window for backside cleavage. Ooh la la!
• Good Girl/Bad Girl Feather Whipper, $24 Captivate your audience with the Good Girl/Bad Girl Feather Whipper. Naughty or nice? You call the shots.
• The Seduction LoveKit, $38 Includes the finishing touches for your sexy show (and afterwards!): Booty Parlor massage oil, lubricant, a candle, and a pout-plumping, minty lipgloss.
For Your Lovah: Trigger your partner's Mojo with these steamy surprises.
• Don't Stop Massage Candle, $36 Turn up the heat—this candle melts into warm oil that can be poured onto skin and massaged in. Daring...and delightful.
• Skin Honey, $22 Spice up his game by letting him decide how to use this delicious, three-in-one kissable body topping, massage gel and lubricant.
• Turn Me On Vibrating Panties, $99 Wear Booty Parlor's famous vibrating panties to a romantic dinner and slide the gift-wrapped controller over to him. He’ll love your sexy secret!
• The Intimacy LoveKit, $24 It's passion in a box! A disposable vibrating couples' ring, Booty Parlor condoms, and mini-sized massage oil and lubricant.
For Your Girlfriends: Each one is frilly and fearless—these picks let her explore both sides.
• Flirty Little Secret Perfume Oil with Pheromones, $22 The seductive scent and pheromones will make her the center of attention day or night. Dana gives this to all her best friends!
• Kissaholic Aphrodisiac Infused Plumping Lip Gloss, $16 These sultry, high shine glosses have plumping ingredients and aphrodisiacs to draw attention to the mouth...and inspire desire!
• Melt Chocolate Body Fondue, $15 She'll get creative with this melt-able chocolate body paint—it comes with a brush! It's also perfect for dipping fruit into, for a special V-Day treat.
• Tickle Me Intimacy LoveKit, $30 No question, she'll put this hanky-panky-inspiring kit to good use. Includes a Marabou feather body duster, kissable body shimmer and Booty Parlor massage oil and lubricant.
Ready to shop? We thought we'd tell you again for good measure that you can find everything you want at the V-Day Gift guide at bootyparlor.com.